Marriage Vision Retreat Videos

1. Remembering to Pursue Joy

Video Summary

  • Sometimes, not all teammates are on the same page (we’re here to help you get on the same page)
  • The American Dream can often distract from what we really want or cause us to believe
  • Rather than focusing on what lifestyle you want, focus on what you want to experience and feel from your lifestyle
1a. The Essentials for Writing Your Marriage Vision

2. Preparing for Your Marriage Retreat

Video Summary

  • Remembering your spouse is your number one
  • Bring a journal if you need to
  • Plan what you want to do on your retreat
  • Be prepared to focus on one another
  • Have fun!
  • Watch the Hard Conversations video pre-retreat
  • Look at potential discussion items ahead of time, and pick your most important ones
3. Having Hard Conversations

Video Summary

  • Listen with the intent of truly hearing what your spouse is saying
  • Understand that you two may be seeing things differently, but that doesn’t mean one of you is right and the other is wrong
  • Talk about how you want things to be (ie, how you want to raise your kids, how you want to communicate)
4. Developing a Marriage Mission Statement: Having a Purpose for Your Marriage

 Video Summary

  • If the purpose of your marriage is “Compatibility”, you’re on very shaky ground
  • Your purpose will change everything
5. Marriage Vision Elements

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Video Summary

  • There is no Right or Wrong way to do these; take these elements as suggestions
  • Elements:
    • Roles
    • Work
    • Parenting
    • Finances
    • Faith
    • Personal Growth
    • Fun and Laughter
    • Serving and Charity
    • Schedules
    • Sex
    • Conflict Resolution
    • Health
  • Your Vision may change as life changes, and that’s okay
  • Discuss these (or elements you come up with) and get on the same page with each other
6. Tips for Writing Out Your Marriage Vision Elements

Video Summary

  • Do not filter anything
  • Act like you’re a kid at Christmastime
  • There is no right or wrong Vision
  • Write things in the present tense
  • Focus on Positive not Negative
7. The Benefits of a Pocket Vision

Video Summary

  • Helps keep you and your spouse on the same page
  • Is a great reminder of the plan
  • Prevents distraction of what other people are doing
  • Prevents you from trying to implement ideas without talking with your spouse first
8. Prioritizing What's Important

Video Summary

  • Anything that requires time should go on your calendar (i.e., Date Night)
  • Prioritize life things first, not work things
9. Take Action

Video Summary

  • A Vision gets you moving in the right direction, so just start moving
  • Print out several Pocket Visions and put them in places where you’ll see them
  • Ask for help in taking these steps and share your journey with others
  • Surround yourself with likeminded people
  • Implement “Whiteboard Warriors”
  • Congratulations on getting started on this incredible journey!