Be Intentional with Every Opportunity
I was recently asked to speak at a grand re-opening of a Real Estate Investor Association in Madison, WI. My goal for the meeting was to teach them how to get the most out of being a part of the association.
I had to think through my career, particularly back to the group I started in Baltimore and to my early days when I was first becoming an investor. How did I go from a broke, doing nothing investor to the most active and arguably most well-known guy in town?
Go to Give
My success in groups came down to this:
I didn’t go to the meeting to get. I went to give.
I sought out others I could guide; people I could help become successful. That heart and attitude served me very well.
My willingness to give and my desire to see others achieve their dreams helped me to see each person in the room differently. I eagerly sought opportunities to lend a helping hand.
As a result, they wanted to help me. They wanted to work with me. Whenever I had a need, several people were willing to come alongside me to meet those needs. And they were interested in having me guide them. The more I helped others, the more my own business grew.
I do want to caution you though…
Your attitude for helping MUST be genuine.
If you’re only helping to get, then at the end of the day you’re showing up with the wrong intentions.
Give without expectation of getting anything back and something beautiful happens.
How Does this Translate to Lifeonaire Coaching Groups?
This heart attitude is especially helpful here. Your coach is there to help you, to come alongside of you and to see you succeed. But you are also part of a group, a mastermind group, a group of people who also want to see you succeed. When you come into a group with a big desire to see everyone around you succeed—and you’re willing to help make their dreams come true—they notice and do the same for you.
Give, give, give.
Do so genuinely, without any expectation of getting anything back, and watch the amazing things that happen!
Can you think of times where this mentality has been beneficial to you?
I’d love to hear your stories/experiences in the comments section.
Good point Steve. I would add that doing that means listening. Not just in the morning, not just to the people who you like or relate to best in the group, but listen to everyone all day. This is especially important the last day.
I love your heart in this post Steve. I’m constantly reminding myself to set my own agenda aside and give. It really is the only way to live!
I believe that you and your wife have that kind of heart. Test it and watch what the Lord can do 😉
Yes, today, I noticed an energy of hurt and pain in a friend. I could tell, she is not the type of person to let such negativity and pain show. Her positive energy has been a tremendous help and very uplifting to me many times past. Today I had the opportunity to return that good energy. I set myself aside, my own trials became nothing, my own storms ceased, and I brought a high level of positive energy that transformed both of us in the moment. We reflected on choosing to be happy, even in the midst of a storm. Later, she thanked me for recognizing and being brave enough to share my energy and peace with her. You know you affect someone in such a transformative way, you can feel the virtue and energy flowing. What a feeling! What gratitude! What abundant joy!
Great share. Thank you!
Love this, Steve. Giving means without expectation of receiving something in return. Otherwise it’s not given, it’s a barter, right?
It also means that you might NOT get anything back… At least not what you’re thinking tangibly.
Sometimes the thing you’re given back is patience, understanding, humility and reminders that other people in the world aren’t here just to orbit around me in my own solar system. Those are sometimes the hardest things to “get back”, but often the most valuable.
Thanks for another great blog post, Steve.
I had a conversation with a friend not that long ago who is very giving. And at the time, he was being attacked from all angles (I should say- so was I). He said something that I was thinking “why do I keep giving when it leads to pain”. It took everything in me to tell him to continue to do so without ceasing, like me, it is his gift. I wanted to tell him to take a break because I wanted to be told that. But I encouraged him. He didn’t stop, he is very blessed today 🙂
This is so true! I have seen it so many times in my 6 years as a Lifeonaire. Very well put Steve, you’re always full of good advice.
This reminds me of a quote.
“Expect nothing and you will never be disappointed “