STOP Making New Years Resolutions!

Each and every year, many Americans spend the holiday season looking back on the last year and contemplating the changes that they would like to see in the year ahead.  Year after year they make resolutions, often the same ones they made the year before.  In spite of wanting things to change a year ago (or many years ago) they’re revisiting the same resolutions they’ve made in the past.

This year I’m going to encourage everyone to STOP making New Years Resolutions! We’re going to be quitters this year.

If you want 2021 to be a better year than 2020, consider STOPPING other things as well. Sometimes life improves and we see tremendous growth not because of the new things we decide to do, but because of the things we decide to stop doing.

With this in mind, I made a list of 5 things to stop doing in 2021:

1. Stop using money as a metric to measure how successful you are.  

I’m not asking you to quit doing smart things with your money, but instead, stop measuring your success on it.

Chances are, there are many people that have much more than you.  And there’s one thing that I’ve discovered in my years of coaching wealthy people: having money doesn’t make them any happier, nor do they ever seem to have enough.  They measure their success based off of how much they have, and consequently, they never have enough.  This measure leads to discontentment.  

2. Stop taking on debt.  

I rarely come across someone that doesn’t want to be debt free.  Most every person that I talk to would like to eliminate all of their debt and be able to say that they have ZERO debt. However, most of these people will go deeper into debt in the following year.  They will convince themselves that they need something enough that it’s worth going into debt for.

The marketers have a job to do: get you to buy their products. They really don’t care that you want to be debt free.

Make it a point to stop borrowing money next year.  You’ll find that there are things that you can actually live without, and it’s the first step toward becoming debt free.

3. Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses.  

This is a game that you can’t win!  Whenever you compare yourself to someone else, you’ll always find someone that has something bigger, better, prettier, or newer than what you have.  It’s a very slippery slope to be on.

When trying to keep up with the Joneses, you are often keeping up with a pretty picture that doesn’t represent what is going on behind closed doors.  The Joneses often finance their way to that pretty picture and the amount of work they do to maintain it, the stress that they do not let you see, and the disfunction in their relationships that comes along with the pretty picture is not something that you want to have.

Instead, learn to be grateful for what you have and learn to be content with it.  In fact, you may find more contentment with getting rid of the things you have and don’t use.  

4. Stop surrounding yourself with the wrong people.  

Most people are so busy worrying about their own lives to really care about you.  That’s not an indictment of people. Instead, it suggests that the same insecurities that you may have about how you look, what you have or how successful you are are shared by most people. So instead of trying to impress them, surround yourself with people who have come to a place of contentment, who aren’t trying to impress.

Along the same lines, stop taking financial advice from people who are not better off than you. 

It amazes me at how often people get advice from others who are doing no better—if not worse—than they are themselves.  I’ve seen people get marriage advice from divorced people, and business start-ups getting advice from struggling business owners about how to do things.  The only advice you should get from those who are struggling is what NOT to do.

5. Stop putting off living life until someday when you have more.  

Let’s face it, in 2020, many people realized how short life can be.  It’s time for you to start experiencing life to the fullest.

When you’re trying to live life with money as the measure, and you’re waiting to live life until you have more, you’ll never have enough.  You’ll put off doing the things you could do right now in hopes that someday you have more available to enjoy life.  Live it today.

At Lifeonaire, I encourage everyone to set themselves up to win.  The mindset here is that we change the rules of the game of life.  We have to stop playing life the way the world around us expects us to.

Instead we go against the grain and live life to the fullest.  If you become a quitter and stop doing the things above, you’ll begin to have the space and time to do the things in life that really matter the most to you, which will also give you the time to grow and experience life to the fullest.



PS: So, are you ready to give up your New Years Resolutions and start STOPPING some things? If so, we’re here to help! Check it out in your app store (look up “Lifeonaire”), or learn more here. Feel free to post your questions, and you’ll receive lots of wisdom and support from like-minded people 🙂

Copyright © 2020 by Steve Cook

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